Of Opinions, Aunties and Other Unsolicited Advice

Dearest Reader,

Once upon a Tuesday, a bride-to-be confided in me, eyes wide with terror:
“I don’t know if I should have a veil… or a croquembouche.”

It turns out that three aunties, two cousins, and a rogue neighbour named Maureen had all taken it upon themselves to “guide” her wedding plans.

Ah yes. The well-meaning opinion parade. A bridal rite of passage, second only to mismatched bridesmaid drama and that one groomsman who thinks shirt buttons are optional.

Here is what I propose:

1. Listen politely.
Smile. Nod. Say, “That’s such a lovely idea,” and make no promises whatsoever.

2. Draw your line.
If your mother’s friend’s yoga instructor thinks your theme should be “lavender and lace,” but you’re dreaming of “bold and disco,” I say: spin that mirror ball.

3. Have a signature phrase.
Mine is: “That’s quite something, isn’t it?” — vague, noncommittal, and ideal for deflecting bunting debates.

4. Make peace with being the villain in someone’s wedding fantasy.
You may not include a family heirloom. You may skip a church. You may not serve the traditional fruitcake.
You’re allowed. It’s your day.

The truth, darling, is this: while advice may be free and frequently delivered, your joy is not up for discussion.

So take what serves you, discard the rest, and walk down that aisle as the vision you dreamed up — not the one designed by a committee.

With love, sequins, and selective hearing,
Lady Belle